MAKE OR BREAK MOMENTS

Paris, 2015.

 
I was reading Damon and Jo's blog, and there was this post about how Damon saw Lilly Singh's vlog, who had two auditions that day and she said:

I have this new mentality going to auditions where I’m nervous but I have just decided in my life that very few things are the make or break of my life. Back in the day, I used to think that, you know, a collab with someone, or meeting someone, or an opportunity would be the make or break. I just decided that I don’t ever want to be in that position that one thing could be the make or break of my life, or my career, or my happiness – whether it’s a relationship, whether it’s an audition, whether it’s a movie role, whether it’s anything, no one thing should be the make or break. So when I go in, I’m like, if I get this, it’d be great, but if I don’t though, on to the next one because nothing is a make or break, and I think that’s a good mentality to have, especially when you think about relationships. Like, I love this person so much, but you know if they leave me, I’m going to be sad, but it’s not going to destroy my life. I just don’t want anything to ever be the make or break. Hug yourself every time I said “make or break.”

As I read this, everything made sense. These past few weeks, I had been preparing for an exam, which I knew was very important. Although, technically I understood this fact, I found that I was not as stressed out about it as I would have been two years earlier. At first, my thought were, "Get it together. You cannot be flippant. This is important. You need to take this seriously."

The thing was I understood the importance of this exam, but because I did not experience any soul-crushing fear of failing, a voice in my head told me that I was playing with fire. When I read these above word, shit just made sense to me. When I was younger, I lived for these "make or break" moments, but as a result I was so scared of missing out on these because I thought that if I wasn't present for these then I would be left out while someone else took the chance. As I've grown older, I have had to realise that there isn't any one make or break moment, or partner, or exam, or career. As long as you are alive, you will always possess the ability to forge ahead. There will be a lot of important moments in life, no doubt about that, but that is the thing to remember: there will be a LOT OF IMPORTANT MOMENTS in life.